100% yes look for that feature specifically. I have a lot of customers with the same issue and a DW with a water softener successfully prolonged their DW life. You should consider a whole house water softener unit as well.
Probably not as the tops are generally porcelain so a baked on enamel finish at the factory. If electric then you could replace the top but would be costly.
Tough call but the best of the best for me is the La Cornue Chateua series , just an amazing product hand made in France. Sold a bunch over the years and they are a work of art.